The Plastics

Have you been victimized by a mean Christian girl?

I am going to say something from Mean Girls and then translate it to something a Mean Christian Girl would say. You tell me, which is worse?--


"You can't sit with us." 
Translation: "I accidentally moved your bible from the seat that you saved, sorry!"  

"She doesn't even go here!" 
Translation: "She's new? She gave me a dirty look when she walked in. She seems stuck up."

"On Wednesdays we wear PINK."
Translation: "I wish I could pull off short dresses like you, but I'd feel convicted!" 

Which is worse? A sugar coated back stab doesn't make it  any less painful. If anything, is causes infection; an infection in the heart, oozing pain, anger, and eventually scaring bitterness.

To the person reading this saying, "Yeah, that's why I'm not a Christian" or "That's why I don't go to church." I want to personally apologize, I am so sorry if you have been personally victimized by a mean Christian. Church is a place of sanctuary, rest, a place you should feel uplifted, and loved. That's not always the case. Sometimes it's the opposite; you feel anxious, insecure, and jugged. But I beg you, please don't let a person who is supposed to be Jesus with flesh, turn you from Jesus Himself. 

   
To the Holy Plastics:

"You can't sit with us"-- Why? Does that person not "click" with you and your friends? Jesus sat with tax collectors and prostitutes. Do you think Jesus "clicked" with the tax collectors and prostitutes?

"She doesn't even go here!"-- Girls, this one is so easy! Just because she's pretty doesn't make her mean. Being pretty is a curse, you have fake friends and enemies without explanation. 

"On Wednesdays we wear PINK"-- You feel someone is dressed inappropriately so instead of telling them, we lie. we give a passive aggressive compliment to her face or we talk about her behind her back! Protect her dignity, air on the side of grace.

This is real. People turn their faces from Jesus because of our plastic faces. 
Stop being a mean girl. Uplift, encourage, be nice. 

 \\The Perfect Little Christian

"I Like" Not "I Do"

"I Like" not "I Do", I feel it should be a book title. It just needs to be put out there! "So we shared feelings, I totally like you. But just because I like you, doesn't mean that we are off to the little white chapel, buying a golden retriever, popping out four kids, and considering the possibilities of adoption." 

Christian, I have been there. You like him, he's a gentlemen, he smells pretty. You like her, she loves kids, she smells pretty. So now what? You want to do things the right way so you-- pray, "Ask God for guidance and direction". Then jump the gun and assume God is saying "yes" because I didn't hear a "no." So now you-- share feelings, the awkward and dreaded "Can I talk to you?" And you basically die inside until the words "I like you" emerge from his lips and you return "I like you too" Now you're thinking "this is the best day of my life."  Until---

This--

Quickly turns into this--

  

 Whether you decide to date or just "stay friends," the simple fact that you are both crazy about each other can easily cause things to escalate very quickly. You start to see that he or she might not just be crazy about you, but may actually be mentally unstable. 

He starts talking about how he hopes you are the "one" she is sliding "babies" into your casual conversation, he brings up how "you're going to be a great mom one day, she pulls the "when we get married" card. And to be honest, all that makes the other person want to do is stop, drop, and roll away from you. It's terrifying. 

"Wait, aren't you supposed to date for the purpose of marriage?"  There is a huge difference between getting to know someone and committing to a loving and caring relationship. You can't marry someone you don't know, that's why dating is important! Dating is supposed to be a causal way to get to know someone better before stepping forward to commit to a long-term relationship. An enjoyable process. No pressure. So please, CALM IT DOWN. 

 

 Acting like a psychotic, possessive, maniac, will serve the purpose of 1 of 2 things:

1. It will create a tremendous amount of pressure causing the person you care about to have a freak out. Being pressured into marriage before you are ready only ends in heartbreak. Chances are your  significant other has already thought about the possibility of your relationship going down that road, no need for the "what if you are the one?" Hence, the stop, drop, and rolling away from you. 

2. It will cause things to move entirely too quickly. I personally believe that vulnerability of your heart goes along with being physically vulnerable. If you have already shared your deepest darkest secrets and basically proposed marriage, but aren't truly ready for the truth of marriage; then where do you go physically? If you are both believers and following the call of purity then-- nowhere. But it puts you in a really awkward place because you have put out emotionally, but can't physically. It is just a really bad spot to be in, which eventually leads to compromise, and again heartbreak. 

It's hard, relationships are scary! You want to be in control, but since when do things turn out to their fullest potential when we have control? Delight yourself in the Lord, enjoy another's company. 

 Things to take away:

1. Stop being unintentionally frightening.

2. Learn to stop, drop, and roll away. 

3. Enjoy your dating relationship holding on to the excitement of "what if". Give God your "what if's" and sit back and relax.

\\The Perfect Little Christian